How did i get here?

The Low Joy LIFE

Motto: Life is grand until I wake up every morning.

You wake up and it’s the same day again. Kids yelling and demanding, house is messy, husband is grumpy. Make the breakfast and the lunch, step over the laundry and get out the door.

LOW JOY MORNING

By mid-day your boss is on you, the car isn’t running well, and you think you felt a lump somewhere, your sister is mad at mom again, and the kids school called, someone’s not feeling well.

LOW JOY MID DAY

Its evening and everyone is home waiting for you to make food. Breakfast dishes still in the sink. The dog runs away and its soccer tonight. Hubby had a bad day and isn’t speaking to anyone. He’s no help.

LOW JOY EVENING

Wake up, do it again just like ground hog day.

One day a co-worker invites you to lunch during low joy mid-day. As she orders lunch, she introduces you to a new friend, Alcohol sits down. Now who is this new friend? Seems harmless and is actually kind of fun. After a few days of lunches with your new friend, Alcohol shows up with more friends. Now the seats are filled with dry goods, chocolate cake, sex-you see Alcohol never shows up alone.

THIS is your NEW and IMPROVED HIGH LIFE!

Your days are the same, kids, demands, stress but now, mid-day life doesn’t feel quite so bad, you have “new friends” and in fact it just seems to feel better and better!

Before long, your new friends are not content hanging with you only at lunch. They want to be around for your stressful evenings too. YAY! Party time.

After a while you realize the extra resources, it’s taking to keep your friends around. How much does it cost me to keep them happy? You sell off time, attention, presence, money at the cost of your very family.

But do I really want to go back to my low joy life before these friends? NO. This is more FUN.

Your friends have settled in. Living off you, sucking you dry, while you work on paying for them dearly.

Lunch and Dinner don’t last for long, Alcohol, sex, high fat sugar foods, and dry goods are now consuming not only your days, but your health, time, relationships-everything.

NOW your new friends demand even more. Your resources are almost gone, but you remember how bad low joy life was and how much better you felt when your new friends arrived. You can’t imagine life without them. Even though supporting them is exhausting, destroying your life and killing you.

YOUR FRIENDS Hijacked your life!

They want to run the show, make the decisions for you. They knock you over and take over every part of your life.

When those new friends are in charge, they take us to places we never wanted to go.

And one day, you look around and barely recognize your own life. The very things you invited in to make life better have become the things that ruin you.

You weren't looking for addiction, that day at low joy lunch. Maybe you were just looking for a little joy. A little relief. A way to make it through another day.

And somewhere along the way, what started as a little fun became something that took a whole lot more than it ever gave.

Here's the thing:

You decide who gets at seat at the table. You can take back the driver's seat. You can start making decisions that serve YOU instead of feeding the friends who hijacked your life.

And perhaps the biggest surprise of all is discovering that the life you thought was low joy doesn't have to stay that way.

What if the real JOY high life was waiting for you all along?